Are you concerned about your kids not playing anymore? Is it worrying you so much that they might be dealing with some problem? Well, there are certain reasons why your kids aren’t playing. With high rates of academic competitions and innumerable career options, Indian parents can be quite bothered about their child’s future. In order to set a stable future for their kids, parents often make few mistakes which they either ignore or they go unnoticed. Let’s take a deeper look into it.
1. Physical and Mental Exhaustion
As a parent, you want your kids to learn and achieve many things in a short span of time. You enroll them in extracurriculars, sports classes, tuitions, etc. Considering the fact that you want your kids to have a secure future and a healthy, problem-free lifestyle; you need to understand that they’re still kids. They might not say anything because you are their authority figure and they are afraid of negative consequences. Multiple classes will lead to mental as well as physical exhaustion, which in turn leads to mood fluctuation, change in appetite, disinterest towards everything and sleep problems. Limit their classes to 1 or 2, let them enjoy their childhood. They have their whole life to learn all sorts of things.
2. Comparing and Competitiveness
Some parents can become very competitive when it comes to comparing their kids with others. Avoid comparing! This is the biggest flaw in parenting. Comparing is most often used as a “motivational” factor, but it’s the opposite. Most parents fail to understand that comparing does not motivate their kids, it demotivates them. You do not want your kids to think that they’re not good enough and others are other better than them. It not only demotivates them but it creates an internal conflict which leads to disinterest and hate towards kids they’re compared to. Do not get competitive with other parents, slow down. Let your kids learn at their own pace.
3. Need for Time-Out
With so much going on in their lives, they need a time-out. Taking them out for lunch or movies is not a recommendable time-out. They need a proper, healthy time-out for playtime. Sending them for sports classes is one thing, but playing with colony friends under the pleasant evening sun is completely different. Don’t you want your kids to have a great childhood? Play-time is an important part of life. Kids need to build up their social circle; it is great to make new friends. Play-time improves a child’s physical and mental state. It’s a healthier path to living and it creates a positive attitude towards life.
Most parents don’t seem to realize that when their kids are spending a large amount of time only on random activities, it might be pressurizing their little minds. They might be attending activities they aren’t even interested in but are doing it just for parents sake. Just because you are concerned about their academics and career, it does not mean you focus on things YOU want them to do rather than what THEY want to do. It is very important to ask them whether they’d like to participate in a particular activity or not. If they say no, you respect their response. They are still growing younglings. Let them do things at their own pace and time. Let them enjoy their youth.
Parents tend to set priorities and responsibilities for their kids. Priorities such as school, exams, a range of courses, and extracurriculars for a good CV. Strict, authoritative parents plan their kids’ future before their child is given a chance to decide anything. As a parent, you need to understand, not every child is expected to live a fast-paced life the moment they enter school. Different minds, different psyche. Before setting up priorities for your kids, have a family discussion and think of ways to prioritize their studies, co-curricular and play-time. Your main aim should be to keep your kids happy. Living a happy lifestyle will lead to a happy life.
In conclusion, ask for your kids’ consent before enrolling them in any activities. Accept their disagreement with an open mind. Prioritize their schedule in a way so they don’t feel pressurized with a hectic schedule which will lead to mental and physical exhaustion. Focus on giving them enough time to play. Let them utilize their free time in the best way they can. Forcing responsibilities at a young age is not recommendable. If they need space, respect it. Remember, what they experience now, might pass on to the family hierarchy - generation to generation.
MAKE THEIR CHILDHOOD, THE BEST CHILDHOOD THEY COULD EVER EXPERIENCE!