Yes, we’ve all been there. At the point where the decisions we make will shape our life ahead of us. It's one scary place if you ask me; filled with trepidation, doubt and hope all at the same time.
Your children will need to make these choices someday. As a parent, it can be a tumultuous time for you too. Whether to support the choices they make or edge them to live your dreams. And although you can be their guiding light, there are some calls that they need to take by themselves. Here is some advice you can impart to your children on approaching life choices.
Weighing out options
It is always a good idea to weigh out the pros and cons of the options available. As a young adult, my mother always insisted I list the positives and negatives of any important decision before I made the plunge. I think it helps you get a better perspective and look at the problem more objectively.
Toss a coin
I read somewhere that it helps to toss a coin when you are in doubt about something. When the coin is up in the air, you suddenly know what you are wishing for. I’ve tried it, and it works!!
Be open to viewpoints
Your child may have a friend who has been in a similar situation earlier or there maybe a well-wishing family member who is known for practical and objective advice. Encourage your children to speak to these people and get their points of view as well. It is not necessary to go by it, but it sometimes helps to get a fresh viewpoint.
Taking responsibility for decisions
Whatever decisions your children make, they need to take responsibility for the same. In the case of a bad choice, they need to examine what went wrong and work on a way to fix the situation. They should learn not to get dejected and stay positive on their way ahead.
Don’t impose your ideas
As a parent, you can offer your words of wisdom and then step back to allow your child to make a decision for himself. At times, you might feel that his choice is not particularly the best one, but you need to reserve your judgments. It is his life to lead.
At the end of the day, we all make mistakes in out lives. I feel sometimes we learn our biggest lessons in life through our mistakes. Although it might hurt to see your child suffer for a bad decision he has made, it will teach him something in the long run. What is life without ups and downs? Stand by your kids in their hard times and be their support, and rejoice in their happier moments.