In this age of inflation and constantly increasing the cost of living, both parents are invariably forced to have full-time jobs, out of the home. Juggling work stress and pressure, along with family responsibilities, is no small feat. Many parents feel that they are not doing enough for their children, and try to compensate by going overboard while satisfying their material demands. This, however, can never be a good thing in the long run. Read on to know why presence is more important than presents.
Touch is one of an essential things to make children feel important and loved. It can range from a hug, a kiss, a pat on the back, or even just ruffle their hair. Young children, especially, crave to be touched, as that is how they know you care, even before they learn to interpret language. As they grow, children might feel more conscious and even embarrassed by your touch. At this stage in their development, give them their space, but don’t cut off completely. Keep the communication channels open, always.
An ideal relationship is one in which the kids feel comfortable enough to express their thoughts and emotions. This bonding is only possible when parents spend quality time with their little ones. Be there when they have problems and support them, so that they confide their troubles in you. But alongside, treat them as you would treat an adult, and seek their opinions about family decisions as well. Make them feel that their inputs and contribution are appreciated.
As the song goes, “Teach your children well, their father's hell did slowly go by.” Meaning, impart to your children the life lessons you have learnt the hard way so that your experience eases their path. In many ways, childhood is a time filled with learning. Try and ensure that you are around to be a part of it. From teaching them to tie their shoelaces, throwing a ball, or driving a car, to imparting valuable life lessons, be around and make a difference in their lives.
4. Instill Confidence
Feeling loved and valued is important for people of all ages. It helps to build self-esteem and self-worth, which are essential to get ahead in life. When you spend quality time with your children, you can identify their strengths and areas that need improvement. Through your interactions, you can teach them how to develop their strengths to tap their potential to the fullest and how to overcome their weaknesses.
5. Be A Role Model
Children very often model their behaviour on those that they spend maximum time with. Try and make every moment you spend with them count. Ensure that you are setting a good example that they can emulate.
It is also important to ensure that both parents spend individual time with each of their children. The benefits to being around for your children are just endless, so get down to business right away. Our children are small but once: spend as much time with them in their formative years as you can, and cherish the memories for a lifetime!