It’s been a few years since I have been at my new job. It’s a job that requires me to be available 24x7, 365 days, whenever my clients need me. It does not pay me in cash, but I get my remuneration in the form of hugs, cuddles, and kisses. Yes – my job is motherhood and the joy my two kids give me is immeasurable. However, there have been some incidents, over the years that have made me seriously doubt my skills as a mom. Read on to see how I made my peace with it.
1. When My Child Hurt Himself For The First Time
My three-month-old son slept on the sofa next to me. The exhaustion of staying up for night feeds caught up with me and I dozed off too. Some time later, the little guy woke up and kicked his feet and propelled himself off the sofa. I woke up to him crying on the floor and turned into a crying mess myself, and refused to forgive myself for weeks. However, the fact remains that accidents do happen. I have realized that you can never be too careful when it comes to infants and simply need to take every precaution possible.
2. When I Let Them Have Their Cake And Eat It Too
My mother-in-law is very particular about the food that the kids eat, to the extent that it’s the only thing she obsesses about. One morning, she was talking to my son on the phone, and she promptly asked him what he ate for breakfast. Pat came to the response from the scrawny little toddler – Chocolate Cake! She was aghast! Which mother in her senses would serve her child junk food in the morning? In my defense, I had tried bread, fruits, milk and idlis before I resorted to Chocolate Cake. And it does have milk, and eggs and flour, why does it have to be a bad choice? Wink wink!
3. When I Yell At My Kids
There have been times when I have told my kids not to do something and they still go ahead and do it. Sometimes at the end of a long day, I lose my cool and use a tone that I should not have used. Yes, kids do test our patience, but I now know that it is best for all concerned if I stay calm and discuss it with my child when he calms down.
4. When They Have More Screen Time Than They Should
Once, the little champ kept himself entertained watching videos on YouTube for a couple of hours, as I dashed around the house, cleaning and fixing dinner for some unexpected guests. It was the best way for me to keep him occupied and in one place. I guess once in a while, it’s probably alright to indulge him, and one day of extra screen time is not going to turn his brains to mush, as long as it doesn’t develop into a regular practice!
5. When I Let Them Splash Around In The Rain
One day, post a heavy shower, the kids and I splashed around in the puddles on the terrace and sailed paper boats. Another mom, who saw me doing this, criticised my actions and told me I would be responsible if my children fell ill. But hey, isn’t playing in water part of childhood? I ensured that I gave them a warm bath and wiped them dry. It was a memorable time for all of us. In case you’re wondering, no, they didn’t fall ill after all!
We all want to be supermoms, but somewhere along the line we all make mistakes or take shortcuts to make our life simpler. If you have done something that you are ashamed off, don’t be too hard on yourself. Do what you think is best for your children. There will always be decisions you make that other will find fault with. Don’t let the negativity bog you down and doubt yourself. Focus on what really matters—your children and their happiness.